1. Get to know your Spirit as a real force through meditation and silence. – I recently read a report on the importance of breathing deeply because cancer cells need a lack of oxygen to spread. This made me think of my own breathing, which is often shallow since the pace of my current Life is so fast. Thus, I plan to get back to my practice of at least 7 minutes of quiet meditative time a day. I suggest you do the same and also remind yourself to take deep breaths throughout the day.
2. Get rid of all the toxins in your life (environment, food, drink, emotions, people). – Ah, the toxins in Life! While most of us know to eat organic and are more conscious of the toxins we bring into our environment, negative toxic people can latch on and be very hard to shake. I eat well, quit smoking, and gave up drinking 17 months ago, but I am still purging all the negative people out of my space. This is a harder thing to do because, just like anything else that is bad for us, we often become addicted to the drama these people bring. But according to my dear August Gold, there can be no ultimate growth unless you rid yourself of anyone and anything that makes you unhappy. Because toxic people keep you from being your authentic Self. There are many ways that this happens. In your family, you may have relatives who formed an opinion of you in childhood or harbored sibling jealousies, that they refuse to shake, now that you are an adult. Or perhaps you have friends that were great for you at one stage but now don’t fit in your new Life. In both of these cases, while you have grown, they refuse to accept the new you and try to keep you locked in a box. Or you may, like me, find that the people you had in your Life while you were under the influence of a toxin, such as alcohol, no longer fit once you are rid of it. Bad relationships can lead to alcoholism, drug abuse, depression, permanent singledom, and failure in your career. You positively must rid yourself of these people or risk never fulfilling your Life’s Destiny. (This is so important that I will be doing a separate Life Lessons post on toxic people within the next few weeks.)
3. Shed the need for approval. – This tenet is also vitally important. Don Miquel Ruiz, author of “The Four Agreements” states that “you should not believe anything that people say about you, positive or negative”. Because if you get hooked on praise you will also internalize criticism. He further explains that each of us are the Directors of our own Life movie and often we are miscast in each other’s films! Negative or positive, other people’s opinions are always their perceptions based on the Life script that they have decided to play out. Thus, seeking approval only puts you at risk of allowing people to force you into a role you are not actually playing. Imagine Jeff Bridges playing the Bow Wow character in “The Lottery Ticket”! Often people cast you in roles in your Life that are just as ludicrous. You know who you are in your gut. Let yourself be that person.